Grief is normal after a loss.

Grief is recorded throughout history, in literature, films and poetry:

A Time to Mourn

‘There is a time for everything…

A time to weep and a time to laugh,

A time to mourn, and a time to dance.’

The book of Ecclesiastes, Chapter 3, verses 1 and 4. The Bible

Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o’er wrought heart and bids it break.”

Macbeth Act IV, Scene III. William Shakespeare


How does our culture grieve?

“All people are shaped to some extent by the culture into which they are born. The human expression of grief is no less a product of culture than marital or religious customs or symbols.” › Gi-Ho

To express our emotions openly, here in Britain, is increasingly acceptable. It was not always the case. Grief Counselling services are available for people who need further help. If you need help in this way here is a link:


Blocks to grieving after our abortion

The fact is that for some of us, our abortion was not what we expected it to be- a solution to the problem. In a nutshell, we feel uncomfortable about grieving because, after all, it was our decision.

Having an abortion is a life event. We need to give ourselves permission to grieve our loss.


Reactions to grief and loss

It can often feel like grief comes in waves. One moment you are okay, then the wave overtakes you and you feel very overwhelmed. It can be frightening. You don’t know when the next wave of grief will come, and you can feel fragile and tired.

Added to this, you can feel afraid or apprehensive about carrying on alone, being with others, or your abortion memory being triggered by going to certain places. You can also be afraid that someone will discover your secret.